Another personal story
by Theacaiblend
Another personal story for you to enjoy. It was a bit on the long side, so I have condensed it slightly, without losing anything relevant to the hosiery wearing. Thanks to the contributor, Theacaiblend (no I don't know what the name means)!
I've been going to this website for a while and I would like to share my story.
As long as I can remember I was also interested in hosiery. I was always jealous of the girls wearing tights in the winter. When I was in seventh grade (1985) I finally tried on a pair of my older, by two years, sister's pantyhose.
I was hooked and I did it again a week later and was caught by her. She saw the black pantyhose through a hole in the bottom of my heel. My sister didn't seem to care just told me to take them off and that was that. The next day there were three new pairs, 2 pantyhose and 1 tights, on my bed with a note saying, enjoy. She didn't tell my parents.
I do remember my mom making a comment that all of a sudden she seemed to be wearing pantyhose a lot after that. We shared a bathroom so I just washed them in the sink and my mom thought nothing of it for the longest time. Not thinking however we started to wash 2 pairs at a time hers and mine, my younger sister had her own bathroom, and hang them on the shower curtain. She asked my sister if I was wearing hosiery and knowing the jig was up she said, yes. She then asked her for how long and by that time it was 5 years. She asked how I was getting them and she said that she was giving them to me. My mom said that she would start to get them for me and not to worry about it. This happened without my knowledge. I came home from where I was and on my bed were three pairs of tights with a note from my mom saying, enjoy, I know. That was that. My parents and both my sisters knew and didn't care.
It was tough wearing pantyhose in high school with gym and all so it mostly happened at night and on the weekends. I shaved my legs in college after the girl I was dating said it would be more comfortable wearing hosiery without hair. Boy was she right. After this I started wearing nude pantyhose under my shorts.
By junior year I was wearing basically any color I wanted. My girlfriend "encouraged" me a lot. She loved it. The big thing came when we were touring England in the winter and going to all the castles. We were looking at the paintings of the kings on the wall and my girlfriend said I should try wearing a skirt like them. When we finished we went to the store and bought a skirt. I remember exactly what I was wearing. A white shirt, black tights and this red plaid skirt that was about 3 inches up from my knees. I was scared to death but my girlfriend and shop lady said I looked awesome. I also got an inch high heel woman shoe. I agreed I looked good, but was still nervous. The shop lady went next store to a hair salon her sister owned and got her to come over. She agreed I looked great. This all happened in 1995.
When we arrived back 6 weeks later I had 4 skirts and was so comfortable doing it I wore one on the plane home. My sisters were picking us up at the airport and absolutely loved the new look. So did my mom. Sadly my dad had died 2 years before. I kept the skirt wearing to a minimum however as work required it. However, hosiery was a mainstay. Nobody cared at all.
In 2000 I moved to Las Vegas and went to work in a casino. Girlfriend was gone by this time. We had a hideous uniform to wear. Khaki everything shorts and shirt. I read the uniform policy. Here is what it said. "Underwear and/or hosiery must be worn at all times." Nothing about only women wearing hosiery. I called my sister and told her about this. She said just wear a pair of nude pantyhose your first day and see if anybody says anything.
About 2 hours later on my first day I was called into the managers office. Nothing about the pantyhose. Relief is what I felt. I wanted to keep wearing them. It was almost 2 months later when we got shorter socks to wear that a female employee asked why I was wearing pantyhose. Up until then you could only see about 4 inches of my leg between the socks and shorts. I told her I liked them. She didn't care and didn't tell anyone else.
It was 6 months later that the same manager noticed and all she said was nice legs. She later told me she looked it up and saw that I was in dress code. I ended up working there 2½ years and by then of course everyone knew. I wore all sorts of shades of nude and shine and denier, nobody cared. A few customers noticed and I mean a few perhaps a hundred that I saw out of the 2 million that came through. A few classic comments. I was pulling them up one day while standing and a women came over and said "I have no sympathy women been doing it for years." I played dumb and said what? She said fighting with pantyhose. That was it. We talked a little and that was that.
Another I heard tell her husband "That guy is wearing nylons" Shortly after that I heard her say I'm going to ask him. She came over and said "you're wearing them for support right, what kind are they, they look really comfortable." I told her Legg's sheer energy active support suntan and yes they are very comfortable.
One last comment came from a lady who told me I had great legs and it took her a while to determine if I was wearing pantyhose but figured it out when she saw a run in them going up the back. Always prepared I had an extra pair and changed into them. My co-workers also knew that I wore skirts and different color tights and pantyhose. I started wearing skirts a lot during this time on my off days. It is hot and skirts are comfortable. Yes, I wear pantyhose but never something a woman wouldn't wear in the summer if they chose to, meaning no black or thick tights. I'm not trying to stand out just wearing what I want. I once showed up to work on an off day in a skirt and black tights in the winter. My manager thought I looked great and I got all positive reactions from the women I worked with.
During this time I met my wife to be. In 2002 I got a great job and with a start up company. Back to having to wear hosiery under my pants. My girlfriend got a job at the same place about 4 months later. We were out to dinner one night and I was wearing a cream skirt and tights with 2 inch block heels and a top. Unbeknownst to us the owner was in the same restaurant. She saw us but we didn't see her. My secret was out at work.
I had a dentist appointment the next day so I was about 2 hours late to work. When I came in I was asked to come into the owner's office. No big deal it happened all the time, the company was growing quickly and I was an important person. She closed the door and sat down. She had a grin on her face. I thought we got the big account we were trying land. Instead she asked if I was wearing tights under my pants. My jaw dropped to the ground. I sat there speechless. Not because I was scared, but because of the novacaine.
I don't hide the fact I wear them I just don't advertise it because to me it is not a big deal. I just couldn't figure out how she could possibly know. She then said I looked great last night and if I wanted to wear skirts to work she was fine with it. She threw a skirt at me and said if I'd like I could change right now. My girlfriend went home and grabbed one earlier that morning figuring I would want to. My office consisted of 19 women and 3 men including me. The men were a bit uncomfortable, but the women thought I looked great.
About 3 years after that I was asked by a female co-worker who had worked there about 2 years the last time I wore dress pants to work because she never saw me in pants. I figured it was a couple of months before and she just missed it. My now wife laughed and said it was 2½ years ago because when we got married a year ago and moved in together she got rid of my dress pants because it dawned on her after I could wear skirts to work that is pretty much all I did and 6 months after that, that is all I wore. No pants at all. I laughed because I had no idea. I gave it absolutely no thought. I was given the opportunity to wear whatever I wanted and I chose skirts and hosiery.
I feel very fortunate because the people closest to me in my life always gave me a chance to wear what I wanted. From my older sister giving me her tights/pantyhose To my mom buying them for me. And my girlfriend who got me to shave my legs and wear different color tights with shorts to finally wearing skirts. Too the jobs that didn't care. And finally to my wife who loves me for who I am and knows that I am a man regardless of what I wear.
As I wrote this letter I figured it has been about 13 years of wearing pantyhose everyday, about 5 years that I could wear a skirt to work. It took me a while to come up with these time frames because again I give it no thought. I get to wear whatever I want any time I want. Just like it should be. For those that are curious I wear strictly Hue tights and for the pantyhose it's between Hue and Legg's.
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That's a great story. If only we could all be so courageous. I wear
tights all the time, but always under jeans when in public. I'll sometimes
wear tights without socks, but still try not to draw attention to my
ankles. I'd love to be so open about it, but don't know if I'll ever have
the guts!
Loved your story. Amazing how different employers take to things like men
in skirts and hose. In my line--real estate--it would never fly. Oh how
much I would love to wear hose everyday. I would love to be wearing them
with a girdle or garter/suspender belt too.
Can't help wondering about this one. Yet again a story - more likely to be
in the fiction section of the library methinks - where a man is introduced
to tights by various women. Has any mother ever really bought tights for
her son? This then of course leads on to wearing skirts, greatly reducing
the credibility, as in real life this just doesn't happen, does it? Apart
from pantomime dames, I have only ever once seen a man in a skirt, and
never seen a man wearing tights. Isn't this story more of a wish list in
nature. Doesn't it feed the notion that tights for men is only ever a bit
'pervy'?
Thanks for all your comments!
very envious of some of what you say, life can be good, I hope it stays
that way for you..
I had similar feelings to the Bank Boar on reading this story as to its
veracity. I think some dramatic licence has been indulged in at least.
Five years of openly wearing tights and skirt to work without otherwise
clearly living as a transvestite - surely it would make international news!
I'm happy to be disabused of my scepticsm, of course, and good on any man
who really manages to pull something like this off.
i am glad i am not the only one to wear pantyhose out of my house my wife
like to see me in them all the time
Right on man! I admire your courage and think it's great you have
supportive people in your life that encourage you to be yourself. The
"hosiery on the bed" part was great. Anyone who frequents this site would
have loved to have that happen when they were younger. I'm still in my
journey toward fully being comfortable expressing myself fashionably. It
was just a couple of years ago when I disclosed my tights-wearing ways to
my mom. I hope to one day get beyond that fear and express myself more
fully.
I can see where the story seems fake. However, it is true. I didn't go
into the whole story. It was an overview. Women didn't introduce me to
pantyhose, I did that on my own. However,they did make it easier for me to
do it. My mom and I had talks about it. It wasn't easy at first. I was
terrified all the time. That girlfriend was crazy, but she gave me the
courage to do it. I have never seen a man in hosiery either and believe me
I look. I resent the fact that Bank boar seems to think it is a fetish or
that I am a very very weird character. I reread it and I don't get fetish
at all. There is not one sexual thing mentioned at all. I don't look or
act anything remotely woman like. If not working or going out, I generally
wear sweats and jeans. Nothing special. Of course hosiery is present. My
skirts are not super short I don't wear heals anymore. I never did a lot
anyway and I found them to be too feminine and uncomfortable for my liking.
Mens dress shoes all the way. As most of my business is not done face to
face I doubt most of my clients even know. Again, most people are too
wrapped up in their own lives, or polite to say anything if they even
notice. Anyway, I hope this clears up the doubt.
One last thing. I was thinking about it today. I have lost "friends "of
both sexes because of this. It was difficult at first to handle that.
However, I have now surrounded myself with a group of people that don't
care and like me and in the case of my wife love me for who I am not what I
wear. I really don't care if people believe my story or not. It is true.
If anyone is ever in Vegas post it on this site and we can meet up some
place. Then you can see for yourself. Geraden, thanks for posting my
story and comments. Hopefully more men will have the courage to wear what
they want, when they want because of this site. Remember, people don't
notice if you are wearing shorts and nude pantyhose. The eyes aren't
trained to see it. So don't be afraid, go out and do it. You won't regret
it. I certainly don't.
I'm sorry if Theacaiblend took offence - I was trying to do the impossible
of making a general point from a specific story.
I have recently been influenced reading a German site with a forum on
tights wearing, where all sorts of really weird stories are posted about
tights wearing. One of the female contributors has done an excellent job of
exposing just how much fetishist writing there is on this forum, and has
received a fair amount of abuse for revealing contradictions and general
patterns found in many of these stories. Hence my comment that invariably
the claim is made the wearing tights began under female influence, never
male. If it is so normal, why are men afraid to do it? Where are men't
tights on sale in the shops? You get the point.
The reaction of many of the participants is anger at their fantasy world
being exposed for what it is.
The same woman also makes the point that if men want to wear tights for
warmth or comfort, that is fine, but there is no need to write detailed
descriptions of it in the Internet - the colour, the den, how many years,
it's so comfortable etc. Women tights wearers never do this, so why do men?
The really offbeat stories you can read only bring the "normal" wearers
into the same disrepute as the weird brigade, and I think this is the
reason some women are so militantly against men in tights. It's not the
garment, it is the associations it evokes.
Sorry about Bank Boar, btw, it is an anagram of 'rob a bank' - which we all
know is the traditional time for men to wear tights ...... :-)
Thank you, Theacaiblend and Bank Boar for your comments! I am glad that
this discussion has been conducted in a sensible manner and that as a
result some important points have been made.
I'm sure the "fuss" we make is a direct consequence of prohibition. If it
were widely accepted for men to wear whatever they chose, the kind of
excitement that accompanies not just wearing but even shopping for tights
and that is often attested to in contributions to this blog would surely
evaporate. It's the breaking of the taboo and the courage it takes that
has such psychic power.
If a little girl who is always seen in skirts and dresses takes to wearing
trousers, the first few times she does so may invite comment from those who
know her well. But that would be the end of it. For a boy to wear tights
even with shorts, not a skirt, he would need the support of his family
forever to combat negative views from wider society. It's kind of OK for
real little kids, but the tights must be discarded forever around age 5 in
favour of manly trousers. A quick bit of research on boys' fashions from a
hundred years ago or so shows that this is an attitude that we have
inherited from Victorian times. The tunics, kilts and stockings were
interim outfits for young boys between infancy (when they were dressed in
the same dresses as the girls) and adolescence when trousers had to be
adopted.
We've all grown up with these proscriptions firmly lodged in our
consciousness, co-existing with a curiosity to try girls' clothes just to
see what they felt like and, having tried them, and enjoyed wearing them,
we've then acquired a guilty secret to be kept hidden at all costs. This
is just a bit neurotic, when all we're guilty of is being ordinary, curious
children and we can go a bit nuts about it all. So we blog away and go
endlessly on about it in reaction to all that negative energy we've lived
with for so long, searching for acceptance and some positive thoughts from
the like-minded and open-minded so we can keep telling ourselves it's OK,
we're OK.
If it weren't for the nonsensical prohibition, this blog wouldn't exist and
these precise thoughts would never have occurred to me and there would be
no significance whatever to my clothing choices other than as a reflection
of my personal taste.
"Can't help wondering about this one. Yet again a story - more likely to be
in the fiction section of the library methinks - where a man is introduced
to tights by various women. Has any mother ever really bought tights for
her son?"
Theacaiblend's story seems not too strange to me. I'm a mexican 33yo man
and I can tell that when I was a baby my mother used to dress me with
tights in the colder season. Not only her, I've known at last two more
young moms doing the same with their male kids.
I believe in Theacaiblend's story. It is not unusual that really caring
mothers fulfil the desires of their children. If someone got hooked to
pantyhose it is not possible to stop it. Even "aversion therapy", which was
popular in psychiatry some decades ago, could not eradicate such behavior.
So my advice to parents is: Let your son wear pantyhose, tights or whatever
he likes and support him without any reservation!
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