Changing Reasons I

by TightsVirus

First, an explanation for the writer's pen name:
"English is not my native language, but I hope everybody can understand me. I am a 38 year old man, and am happily married and have children. I live in a small country in Europe. For the privacy of my family, I will not provide photos or further details. I have read about the Nylon Gene, and thought, is it a mutation and only inherited, or is it something that can be acquired during life? If so, it could be brought by a virus!"

I am grateful to TightsVirus for putting together his story for us. It will be in several parts because of the length. This part sets the scene.

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Like many, my story starts from childhood. People have told me that I hated a single-piece snow suit (which was a novelty that somebody got through the iron curtain from theUSA!) at the age of 3 or 5. I remember I hated wearing tights with shorts and seeing other boys so dressed when I was 6 or 7. Now I like both such styles of clothing. Sometimes things you like as child become things you don't like later, and sometimes vice versa, as I have heard and experienced myself for other things.

In my country it has been and is normal for boys to wear children's tights until about 7 or sometimes longer, especially when going out in a snowy winter. (My son, who is 7 now, has worn tights. But he does not like to put them on, and of course does not like that they become small too fast as he is growing.)

In teenage years, I was a shy and unsocial boy. I have read the story about Asperger's syndrome (http://geraden.blog-city.com/tights_and_aspergers.htm ), and found some similarities with myself; maybe I had a light form of it, but nobody would have cared to diagnose. My country was occupied by USSR since 1940, my parents suffered from the depressive situation in the country, and in the end, had problems with alcohol. But that was my childhood, and I knew no other and had a lot of my own phantasies. I was clumsy but I liked to watch the aerobics classes on Russian TV where girls and ladies wore shiny leotards and unitards.

About the age of 13, out of curiosity, I started experimenting with clothing. My elder sister left home and father died the same year as I was 14, so I was left with mother. I played and experimented with my clothes and some old garbage that my mother still kept at home. My main interests were leotards and one piece swim suits but I also tried tights and other things together. Soon I started getting sexual pleasure, but would not count as a crossdresser in strict sense, as I never tried to play a woman to others. I mention this only as a part of my background, and this is not the reason why I wear tights now.

When I started University and work at 18, I started buying things on the market and at second hand (charity) stores which were abundant at the time, to wear secretly at home. About the age of 23 I left my mother, and she died when I was 25. Did she notice something? Maybe, but then she was too busy with herself.

At 26, I was living alone in my own apartment. I wore very conservative clothing at work, even business suits when not required to do so. At home, I wore whatever I wanted, as well as under ski suits during long winter weekend walks in forest, or anything looking like a sports suit on the bike in summer. But then, I started getting VERY lonely, although I had relatives to visit occasionally, and had a cat for a while. No person was waiting for me when I came home from work and I was waiting for nobody. Nothing replaced a family, and I was getting tired of myself and my fetish. I started wanting to be normal and looking for a girlfriend. It took more than 3 years until I met my wife.

I had a large collection of sports and fetish clothing which I threw away when the girlfriend who is now my wife moved in with me, and she knows it. But the interest in unconventional clothing has never really left me, and I will never be indifferent about it.

I am rather big and tall (about 190 cm or  6'3"), but most of my work is done sitting at the computer, so I tend to get rather overweight. I like to fight my overweight by using a bike every summer for weekend rides and also going to work and on errands depending on weather, distance and formal/informal situation. On the bike, I like to wear a one-piece "skinsuit" or "triathlon suit", with short sleeves and legs (like lycra T-shirt+shorts), sometimes combined with other clothes, because it is comfortable for me, even if I am not an athlete. In the winter weekends, I take long walks in the park, either alone or with my son or whole family, and often use one-piece overall ski suit although I am not skiing, just because I like it and feel comfortable in this garment without a waistband either restricting or sliding down.

If I am not at work or any other formal situation, I prefer comfort and wearing what I want, over what people think of me, well, within decent limits but trying to extend them a little bit. My family has accepted it so far.

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